Grieving

Grieving is a deep sadness that we try to avoid. It is an anguish in your heart that words can’t touch or describe. I know from experience that grieving is necessary and must be embraced when there has been a loss in your life. This could be a loss of anything that you loved and cherished such as a child or spouse. In my case, it was the loss of someone and the way he once was. Grieving is a time when you face the pain and sorrow of what you have lost. This pain you feel after a loss is real; you feel it day after day as it lingers like a throbbing toothache. Will it ever end? The answer is yes, it will subside as you grieve what you have lost.

During the time when our son was in a coma after a horrible car accident, I would take a few hours to sleep only to wake up hoping it was all just a bad dream. Then I would fully awake to find it was real, we had been hit by a semi truck, and yes,our son was lying there in a coma. At that point I was flooded with emotions. I felt an overwhelming sadness, even though I didn’t know at the time, what I had lost. As he came out of the coma I began to grieve as I realized the happy,carefree, young boy; my first born son, was not there. His body was there, bu this personality and wit were just not present. He left with us that day in March,2005 on a trip to Nana and Papa's and never returned. Now I had a brand new son, a different son, one I would love and embrace more and more. However, I had to grieve and release the first born son I lost March 26, 2005.

Grieving is not a sign of weakness, it is an essential part of emotional healing. Grieving should not be done alone, everyone needs comfort from someone who understands and cares. As you read this, your pain may be touched. You may feel overwhelmed right now from the sadness of your own loss. If you feel these emotions, then you are grieving. Don’t try to stop it, call a friend, a family member, or a pastor and ask them if you can share how you are feeling. I called “The Comforter”, the one who was ever present with me during those sad days, the Holy Spirit of God never left my side. He is there for you too, and you can call on Him right now. He is very present in a time of trouble. When you call on Him and tell Him how you feel, He listens, and understands.

As I read the Twenty-third Psalm in the Bible, I was assured everyday that God was with me to comfort me as I walked through this valley of the shadow of death. I had never suffered a loss like this before, and I needed the Holy Spirit to be with me, to hold me up, and sustain me each day. When the doctors gave shocking reports, I did not give in to fear because God was with me. He never left me, His presence and comfort were there like a warm blanket on a cold night. He covered me as I walked through the shadows of death into the light of each new day and the life of a brand new son, who is a gift from God.


“Yea,though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil;for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me” (Psalms 23:4).

Written by Denise Boggs, mother of TBI survivor

Living Waters Ministry

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